Labor, work, activity, good deeds, OCD, cleaning, perfection.
If we (in our mind) do enough in our community, we will be accepted.
If we ( in our mind) have a clean enough home, we will be looked upon favorably and be validated.
If we (In our mind) are perfect in how we love, we will be loved.
Checking in is looking for validation
However, all of the activity and energy we put into that quest becomes empty and futile because we are now focused on the act of what we do. The good energy that was once exchanged has changed into energy focused on the vehicle or the action.
If we simply live as we are, we live as we are. No more, no less.
Do you labor for love, or labor to get love?